“Instead of swiping, the strategy is wiping: namely, one’s perspiration onto a cotton pad.”Sniffing Out Love
If there was ever a summer of the comeback kids, it’s this one, summer 2021! This comeback kid on wheels is feeling the resilience of America everywhere I roll and on the podcast apps I scroll!
This summer, I just found out the original online talk show I had created, The Sportshour with Alex Garrett , was approved by the iHeartRadio app!
Why this means so much is there were countless times while on air at WQMC Radio at Queens College the ratings meter did not tick up very much. That honestly got into my head a lot more than I’d like to admit! Imagine thinking you are taking to yourself and only thyself?! Yet, I didn’t give up on the show and now it’s on podcast apps all over the place!
Let me say that again: I didn’t give up on the show and now it’s on podcast apps all over the place, under the umbrella of Alex Garrett Podcasting. So if this summer can be realized as a summer of resilience, you TOO can stay resilient!
While we now have to hunker down against the Delta variant, our resilience is needed again and that includes not locking down again! We can weather this storm without shutting down, I freaking feel it!
It’s wild to think seeing my own show on IHeartRadio and some confidence-stilling can inspire staying the course of resiliency . It’s the only way I know how to live by persevering and living through any adversity! It can be done!
A self-created podcast on a podcast app has helped teach me that this summer of the come back kid!
When we talk about ROI, normally it’s in the context of what WE can get back for something we’ve invested in.
Yet, has it ever come to mind that individuals have an ROI attached to them? That companies INVEST in individuals like you or I expecting RESULTS? Companies also don’t just invest in anyone, they are investing in YOU and maybe if thinking of it that way, we can throw out the phrase ‘just another day at the office’.
I never like being told a job is a job, because I don’t feel like the 9-5 type any how. Add on to that this idea that a company pays me personally to get the job done, yes I want to show them the ROI in my work is worth it day in and day out. I also just love working hard, i can’t think of it another way.
It also comes to mind that people are getting used to government benefits like the stimulus checks that they don’t want to go back to work. I can’t imagine it’s a majority of the country, but numbers still show a slow hiring process due to unwillingness to work. What if we instilled in people that companies are willing to re-invest in them and their talents? Wouldn’t that inspire them to stop relying on government help and become Independent again?
It’s Independence Day weekend, don’t be afraid to be an Independent worker who realizes their worth and realizes they aren’t meant to be on the government dime forever.
We are not celebrating Independence Day just to be dependent on Uncle Sam 24/7!
I talked about this on my latest podcast on the idea of ROI being reflected on us as well!
This Father’s Day carries a lot more weight to it for my family and I! Father’s Day 2021 falls on the 3 year anniversary of the loss of my grandmother, Shirley ‘Dee Dee ‘ Brockway .
On June 17th, 2018, my father, stepfather, mother and Aunt from California were surrounding the alert now-100 year old Shirley on Father’s Day. She wasn’t feeling as well but she kept pushing through and kept asking questions that showed her sharpness never left her right up until her final breath, 3 days later.
As far as Fatherhood goes, my dad and I always stayed over at my grandmother’s, because she had such a welcoming and loving soul to all her family. Between the two of them, I definitely learned to, as Dee Dee would say , “put on my big boy pants” in life.
My grandmother also welcomed my step-dad, Vic , in 1999 when my mom and Vic started dating. She must have given off a smile after Vic fixed her stove that she had, as he puts it, “written son-in-law across my forehead”! Just a few years later , son-in-law became official and as I got older Sunday visits were the norm where Vic , my mother, and ‘Dee Dee’ would also teach me different ways to get better in the real world. All of these moments took place at the dinner table in her later years.
Of course for Vic and my father, they have taught me in their own ways all the while growing up on how to be in this world. They’ve calmed me down to reality and yet have inspired me to go after dreams I have, and thanks to them I have felt a strong balance of faith, love, adventure , and yes mindfulness, in my life because of my immediate father figures !
What some may not know is that Shirley Brockway lived a full life outside the house up until about age 91, when retired from her leadership position with a senior citizens center in the Bronx. Not only did she work there until she was 91, she was consistently DRIVING up to work in her early 90s! Outside of work she’d come to various events for all her grandkids , including weddings of my cousins on LI and, personally, my appearances on Variety the Children’s Charity telethons. Remarkably, she also made my 2013 graduation from Queens College in 95 degree heat, while 95 years old!
The photo above is from the post-graduation lunch in 2013. To have both my fathers and my grandmother all at one table knowing how tense it sometimes was when we were all together was a breath of fresh air for me.
That was the thing about Dee Dee , she brought family that may have felt on opposite sides of a spectrum together. She welcomed all into her home for many years, including at her 100th birthday extravaganza with my ENTIRE family! She loved us all through our faults and stood by us as our matriarch.
It’s intriguing to write about a matriarch on the day we honor Fathers. Yet, I believe her strength for my family helped the men in our family become better men! She also raised three-strong willed women who inspired their kids to be better men in this world as well! I’m very proud of my mom , who has instilled a sense of what I should be as a man , disabled or not, in this world.
There’s so much more I can also write about my father figures, which you should stay tuned for, but this one goes to Dee Dee! We miss you and love you , but we feel your spirit with us daily!
Next month, the disabled community works towards gaining more acceptance 31 years after the signing of the Americans With Disabilities Act. While the work is never done smashing stigma and gaining acceptance, let’s adapt the goal! Let’s be selective!
Selectivity is a topic that has come up over the last week, so I feel compelled to write about this idea! I also think God has put us where we are meant to be in life, and gives us the intuition to be selective !
I promise you , I am not jaded about people. I LOVE people, I love socializing. This pandemic has made me too anxious about not seeing friends again if I’m honest. Yet, I am more eyes-open about people’s motives having about 11 years into adulthood now.
To be widely accepted has been excited , to be able to announce in college had been exciting has heck. I was happy-go-lucky and wanted to be friends with everybody because that is my nature . All my life , I never thought I couldn’t make friends because I have one leg . If I didn’t think people would gravitate and I couldn’t get the nerve to gravitate toward people, I would have just stayed home!
Yet, in college , there were a couple people who saw the energy I was putting out there and DRAINED me. I was pushed around on my skate by a ‘friend’ and he almost knocked me over. I had enough of that friendship, especially when it felt financially tied together. Friendship shouldn’t be bought, it’s a lesson I’ve learned for years. It also was my awakening to the fact that maybe I did try to be friends with everybody . Again, I did that just because that who is I am. Regardless, some I feel in the disabled community consciously try to become friend with everyone because they are scared to be selective . It’s 2021, DON’T BE SCARED TO BE SELECTIVE!
On the outside looking in some might think we have trouble making friends. So, I’ve seen they take that thought and try to be buddy-buddy only for ulterior motives to be revealed as things move along, specifically someone like my former college friend . On dating, some might think we try too hard instead of point blank putting in the effort to get to truly know us and to understand us!
While we want acceptance, knowing our worth in this world will gain acceptance even more and move our life forward. We also have to face the fact , not all can accept us as is, and it’s ok to not accept all into our sphere. Let me write that again, not all can accept us as is, and it’s ok to not accept all into our sphere.
If we are selective, it can also help us stay healthy. Mentally trying to make a friendship work will actually deter us from staying healthy. Being wrapped up in relationship worries that don’t work out because we feel we can’t do better will bring us down a few notches also.
Let’s keep smashing stigma in 2021. Prove that we don’t have trouble , we just really are selective! I’ve got a good corps of good friends that I can rely on and just have fun times with, that’s all I can really ask for!
It’s only fitting that a little school and center on Long Island produces greatness . Fact is the Viscardi Center was BUILT with greatness and on a foundation of greatness.
If you know anything about Dr. Henry Viscardi, you would know how great a man he was. He , himself, overcame having limbs that were underdeveloped requiring prosthetic legs. His life experience inspired him to help others and provide opportunities for those returning war veterans who became disabled during combat in World War II! That center, Human Resources, grew and added The Henry Viscardi School for kids with disabilities .
I’m very humbled to say I became a graduate of HVS in 2009. I had gone to school there from K-12 ! A large part of my current day motivation is influenced by seeing friends in the disabled community and HVS community adapt and thrive! Stories from this community can help others ease into adaptation for their current day situations, I know it!
What also makes HVS so great is that our community welcomes greatness! I can discuss so many different ways the Viscardi Center community welcomes greatness , but to be topical I’d like to focus on the Islanders partnership. As you may know , the Islanders are about to face off against the Tampa Bay Lightning in the semi-finals!
Since I can remember , the current New York Islanders have played hockey with the Viscardi kids year in and year out at HVS. The catch was that these tall hockey players would become wheelchair-bound and be on the level with fast kids in power wheelchairs and regular wheelchairs. The Islanders humbled themselves because they wanted to experience the incredible spirit HVS students have! (https://www.viscardicenter.org/ny-islanders-play-hockey-at-hvs/)
The Islanders have also made available legends such as Bobby Nystrom and Clark Gillies to join our annual gala which raises funds for the Viscardi Center and Viscardi School ! For a tough group of guys, this kind of outreach show how much of a heart these hockey guys can have for the community and I am here for it!
When you cheer them on against Tampa this series , remember that these guys do it for the community and that community, I’m proud to say, includes that little but GREAT place in Albertson known as the Henry Viscardi Center !
‘Lest we forget ‘ became a mantra nearly 20 years ago after September 11, 2001. I believe that we should never forget our fallen the day after Memorial Day.
Memorial Day weekend has always been labeled the ‘unofficial start of Summer’ and some might even call it a ‘long weekend’ . We don’t get to call it any of this without the reason for it. We don’t get to kick back and relax with friends and family on Memorial Day weekend if blood wasn’t shed or lives were not lost on the battlefield to protect our freedoms !
While at the Intrepid Air and Space Museum’s beautiful Memorial Day ceremony, it hit me. Living American veterans lost brothers and sisters during combat and no matter how old a veteran , I can’t imagine these ceremonies get any easier.
The war stories these veterans tell are also quite incredible and the adaptations made in time of war, to the point of losing a fellow soldier in combat are timeless !
I personally do love going to these ceremonies because I don’t believe our fallen heroes should have fought for America in vain and died in vain. It’s also a twist that while I only have the one leg, I didn’t lose it in war, which makes me appreciate those who fought and have lost limbs in a war and even their lives defending us even more.
We gather for these ceremonies and then I get the sense that we kind of forget about our troops the day after Memorial Day, 4th of July, and Veterans Day. ‘Lest We Forget’ the sacrifices made 365 days a year as our men and women in the armed forces never stop making them, even in our hospitals by healthcare heroes for our fellow Americans. All who serve to defend us do it for love of God and Country!
WHAT YOU HEARD ON ALEX GARRETT PODCASTING THIS WEEK
Alex welcomed Razor Scooter representative Ali Kermani (@ILikeHermoney on Instagram) to discuss adapting to new ways of skateboarding and utilizing his scooter after surgery took him off the skating ramp for nearly a year! (https://www.spreaker.com/episode/45057600)
Charlie Culture joined once again to weigh in on whether changing NYC culture can be done through the Mayor’s race. Also, why is John Cena apologizing to China and are the Knicks back CULTURALLY for New York?
WFAN’s own Ann Liguori talked Phil Mickleson’s victory at the PGA Championship and so much more with Alex! (https://www.spreaker.com/user/6972799/5-29-21-ann-liguori-tells-us-the-story-a)
Keep Your eye out for more from Alex at (https://www.spreaker.com/user/agsportshournyc)
Contact him at Alex@AlexGNYC.com!
I rarely do two guests on one show, but this one is a doozy! Don’t miss Dr. Joseph Cardillo as he discusses his new book, “The 12 Rules of Attention” and the idea of introspection heading out of this pandemic !
Then stay with this episode as I welcome Paul N. Larsen to discuss the imposter syndrome and why we should celebrate it!
An inward look indeed as the weather gets warmer and we ADAPT to new CDC rules and regs with COVID-19 seemingly winding down!
This was a joyous moment! The whole process of being vaccinated was in a sense magical. Two weeks ago, I completed the final dose of Pfizer thanks to NYC Health and Hospitals+ ! Hence I am fully vaccinated! Or so I thought , I’ll get to that in a bit.
However, the walk-in process felt special and right now, walk-in appointments are available if you so desire to become vaccinated! (http://on.nyc.gov/walkupvax)
I utilize this platform to simply encourage , not judge you if you don’t want to get a vaccine due to health concerns and the news surrounding after-effects. Trust me, I was nervous of side-effects of vaccine two as well. I also don’t believe in threats against resuming society if not every person is vaccinated.
Not every person gets the flu vaccine, and they have that right , why not the right in this instance as well as COVID cases decline?
My journey of what I believed is considered fully vaccinated feels exciting moving forward. Will we really need a third shot? Will I get that third shot if so? Time will tell. For now, I’m excited to just get back to the ballyard for baseball this summer . Excited to roll around the city a little more carefree than before and just enjoy a BETTER normal in our city, NEW YORK CITY. Let’s bring it back baby!
I just hope that America is not held hostage by the idea of the vaccine. We have freedoms in this country and thank GOD we haven’t mandated legislatively this vaccine. Yet, the pressures told to us that we can’t get back to normal unless we all get vaccinated is such a pressure campaign, it disheartens me.
The Oscars had everyone vaccinated, but why aren’t these stars doing ANYTHING to ease the distrust some of America still has? The President and the VP got the vaccine on CAMERA, yet they too don’t encourage us to get the vaccine , only threatening us if we don’t get that shot in the arm!
So if pressuring and bullying is what our leaders will resort to, I say just let us live! Heck, let us be vaxxed if so desired and enjoy those benefits. But, most importantly let us be adults in the room, Americans CAN handle themselves!