Adapting With Alex Garrett

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Childhood Phases Helped Save My Life!

Alex and Taz!

As I think about nearing 30 years on this planet , I think of the saving graces. Two of those saving graces stare me right in the face here in 2021!

30 years in the making of this life, of course the biggest life-savers have been the doctors and the nurses and my core family who have stuck by each and every day of this journey. But through any chaotic health crisis, isn’t normalcy wanted?

Isn’t normalcy a priority for a child that needs hospital time more so than other kids? My folks sure thought so! So, they let me live out my childhood phases to the fullest. Two of those phases have hit me right between the eyes !

On Friday night, July 30th, the Mets will don their classic black jersey for the first time in nearly 15-20 years. An exciting moment for sure since they turned to a blue jersey over last couple of years. Personally, I used to want every kind of black jersey the Mets had worn in the 90s! From the home to the road, to Mike Piazza shirts, and even the black Mets cap! My folks took me to Grand Slam Sports in Times Square, NYC and let me immerse in that jersey-wearing glory! Which I continue to immerse myself in.

Back then , however, sports jerseys were an escape from whatever health ailment I had dealt with any given week! I even would wear a Yankee or Mets (or even Cubs/Blackhawks) to the hospital as sort of a security blanket I guess ! So thanks mom, pop and my stepdad for never discouraging me from this phase because wearing sports jerseys definitely helped me through the rough times!

Another phase that hit me this week was my love of Taz, the Looney Toons’ own Tazmanian Devil! Whether it was his whirling dervishes, or just his chaotic intensity I loved that dude ! I got what felt like all his shirts and even a plush Taz ! I see that he his in Space Jam 2 now!

Childhood phases today look a lot different and I wasn’t going to go here but let’s talk about it. Children today seem more encouraged to feel like who they identify with rather than how they were made by God. I don’t believe it’s trans-phobic to say a childhood phase of gender dysphoria may not last forever , so to explore the idea even to point of body reconstruction does feel wrong to me in a body as young as 9-16/17 years old. Keeping an eye out on these phases feels the best course of action , rather than bowing down to taking action then and there when you most likely know what’s best for your child over any radical activists that say otherwise!

For me this summer, however, it appears I’ll be reliving my childhood this summer, or at least looking back on it as thank God for these phases that kept me going then and inspire me to keep going now!

Honoring a Matriarch on Father’s Day 2021

This Father’s Day carries a lot more weight to it for my family and I! Father’s Day 2021 falls on the 3 year anniversary of the loss of my grandmother, Shirley ‘Dee Dee ‘ Brockway .

On June 17th, 2018, my father, stepfather, mother and Aunt from California were surrounding the alert now-100 year old Shirley on Father’s Day. She wasn’t feeling as well but she kept pushing through and kept asking questions that showed her sharpness never left her right up until her final breath, 3 days later.

As far as Fatherhood goes, my dad and I always stayed over at my grandmother’s, because she had such a welcoming and loving soul to all her family. Between the two of them, I definitely learned to, as Dee Dee would say , “put on my big boy pants” in life.

My grandmother also welcomed my step-dad, Vic , in 1999 when my mom and Vic started dating. She must have given off a smile after Vic fixed her stove that she had, as he puts it, “written son-in-law across my forehead”! Just a few years later , son-in-law became official and as I got older Sunday visits were the norm where Vic , my mother, and ‘Dee Dee’ would also teach me different ways to get better in the real world. All of these moments took place at the dinner table in her later years.

Of course for Vic and my father, they have taught me in their own ways all the while growing up on how to be in this world. They’ve calmed me down to reality and yet have inspired me to go after dreams I have, and thanks to them I have felt a strong balance of faith, love, adventure , and yes mindfulness, in my life because of my immediate father figures !

What some may not know is that Shirley Brockway lived a full life outside the house up until about age 91, when retired from her leadership position with a senior citizens center in the Bronx. Not only did she work there until she was 91, she was consistently DRIVING up to work in her early 90s! Outside of work she’d come to various events for all her grandkids , including weddings of my cousins on LI and, personally, my appearances on Variety the Children’s Charity telethons. Remarkably, she also made my 2013 graduation from Queens College in 95 degree heat, while 95 years old!

The photo above is from the post-graduation lunch in 2013. To have both my fathers and my grandmother all at one table knowing how tense it sometimes was when we were all together was a breath of fresh air for me.

That was the thing about Dee Dee , she brought family that may have felt on opposite sides of a spectrum together. She welcomed all into her home for many years, including at her 100th birthday extravaganza with my ENTIRE family! She loved us all through our faults and stood by us as our matriarch.

It’s intriguing to write about a matriarch on the day we honor Fathers. Yet, I believe her strength for my family helped the men in our family become better men! She also raised three-strong willed women who inspired their kids to be better men in this world as well! I’m very proud of my mom , who has instilled a sense of what I should be as a man , disabled or not, in this world.

There’s so much more I can also write about my father figures, which you should stay tuned for, but this one goes to Dee Dee! We miss you and love you , but we feel your spirit with us daily!

The Day After Memorial Day…

‘Lest we forget ‘ became a mantra nearly 20 years ago after September 11, 2001. I believe that we should never forget our fallen the day after Memorial Day.

AlexGNYC1: Wreath thrown into the Hudson River at the Intrepid Air and Space Museum’s 2021 Memorial Day celebration.

Memorial Day weekend has always been labeled the ‘unofficial start of Summer’ and some might even call it a ‘long weekend’ . We don’t get to call it any of this without the reason for it. We don’t get to kick back and relax with friends and family on Memorial Day weekend if blood wasn’t shed or lives were not lost on the battlefield to protect our freedoms !

While at the Intrepid Air and Space Museum’s beautiful Memorial Day ceremony, it hit me. Living American veterans lost brothers and sisters during combat and no matter how old a veteran , I can’t imagine these ceremonies get any easier.

The war stories these veterans tell are also quite incredible and the adaptations made in time of war, to the point of losing a fellow soldier in combat are timeless !

I personally do love going to these ceremonies because I don’t believe our fallen heroes should have fought for America in vain and died in vain. It’s also a twist that while I only have the one leg, I didn’t lose it in war, which makes me appreciate those who fought and have lost limbs in a war and even their lives defending us even more.

We gather for these ceremonies and then I get the sense that we kind of forget about our troops the day after Memorial Day, 4th of July, and Veterans Day. ‘Lest We Forget’ the sacrifices made 365 days a year as our men and women in the armed forces never stop making them, even in our hospitals by healthcare heroes for our fellow Americans. All who serve to defend us do it for love of God and Country!

Adapting On A Skateboard

On my latest podcast, Razor Scooter rep. and ‘Crazy Cart’ enthusiast Ali Kermani talks about life after surgery that took him out of the skate parks, and how he’s rolled right back with NEW AND ADAPTED tricks on his skateboard and how he managed to stay positive through recovery post-surgery!

Click the link below! https://www.spreaker.com/episode/45057600

An Inward Look to Adapt Ourselves

I rarely do two guests on one show, but this one is a doozy! Don’t miss Dr. Joseph Cardillo as he discusses his new book, “The 12 Rules of Attention” and the idea of introspection heading out of this pandemic !

Then stay with this episode as I welcome Paul N. Larsen to discuss the imposter syndrome and why we should celebrate it!

An inward look indeed as the weather gets warmer and we ADAPT to new CDC rules and regs with COVID-19 seemingly winding down!

Enjoy!

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/44963152

I’m Vaccinated, But I Won’t Bully Those Who Aren’t Vaccinated !

AlexGNYC1 2021

This was a joyous moment! The whole process of being vaccinated was in a sense magical. Two weeks ago, I completed the final dose of Pfizer thanks to NYC Health and Hospitals+ ! Hence I am fully vaccinated! Or so I thought , I’ll get to that in a bit.

However, the walk-in process felt special and right now, walk-in appointments are available if you so desire to become vaccinated! (http://on.nyc.gov/walkupvax)

I utilize this platform to simply encourage , not judge you if you don’t want to get a vaccine due to health concerns and the news surrounding after-effects. Trust me, I was nervous of side-effects of vaccine two as well. I also don’t believe in threats against resuming society if not every person is vaccinated.

Not every person gets the flu vaccine, and they have that right , why not the right in this instance as well as COVID cases decline?

My journey of what I believed is considered fully vaccinated feels exciting moving forward. Will we really need a third shot? Will I get that third shot if so? Time will tell. For now, I’m excited to just get back to the ballyard for baseball this summer . Excited to roll around the city a little more carefree than before and just enjoy a BETTER normal in our city, NEW YORK CITY. Let’s bring it back baby!

I just hope that America is not held hostage by the idea of the vaccine. We have freedoms in this country and thank GOD we haven’t mandated legislatively this vaccine. Yet, the pressures told to us that we can’t get back to normal unless we all get vaccinated is such a pressure campaign, it disheartens me.

The Oscars had everyone vaccinated, but why aren’t these stars doing ANYTHING to ease the distrust some of America still has? The President and the VP got the vaccine on CAMERA, yet they too don’t encourage us to get the vaccine , only threatening us if we don’t get that shot in the arm!

So if pressuring and bullying is what our leaders will resort to, I say just let us live! Heck, let us be vaxxed if so desired and enjoy those benefits. But, most importantly let us be adults in the room, Americans CAN handle themselves!

I Won’t Make It In Media Because…

…Because I want to bridge the gap with this plaftorm!

This is the exact title of my latest Podcast .

I dedicated some time to discuss this idea of bridging the gap. I believe it is a must here in 2021, but it won’t go viral to say the gap and divide seen in Washington and America must be narrowed.

Yes, everyone talks about it. The term ‘bridging the gap’ is getting worn out and quite frankly over-used and politicized. Yet, the talkers aren’t always highlighting the DOERS that work to bridge gaps in today’s society. It is frustrating when you think about it. Why would the talkers not be DOING? Because if one solution was found, there would be an erosion of profits first and foremost.

There is no doubt this gap keeps existing without any bridging because division makes money, right? Maintaining the division profits so many different sectors of society! News networks profit off continually highlighting the divide while claiming to want to bridge the divide! To do that, you’d actually have to invite those making waves in their community on to various shows. 90% of the time during the week, talking heads talk with other talking heads and the feel good ‘in the community’ segments air on a Sunday when no one really is watching. LET’S STOP BURYING THE BRIDGE GAPPING LEDE!

Can legislation be a bridge-gapper? I would love to hope our tax dollars go to finding solutions, but gridlock STILL plainly exists in Washington, Albany and the Mayor of New York’s office. That’s not by accident. Our elected leaders answer to lobbyists, who fund them. If they actually came together agreeing AGAINST their interests, the lobbyists would turn on them and the donations would stop. I would say, let’s forego focus on the donors and focus on the issues to bridge our divides, but that’s why I wouldn’t make it in politics either. I don’t ever feel meant to be tied down to outside interests in this life!

If this platform, Adapting With Alex Garrett, can’t make it in the media world or politics, that is fine by me! I’d rather welcome those who have solutions and fixers. I want to direct you to places in NYC specifically like the Downtown Alliance (https://downtownny.com/); NY Hospitality Alliance (https://www.thenycalliance.org/) and Upper West Side Together (https://www.facebook.com/groups/3199698486785596/). Find out the organizations doing good in your neck of the woods and let me know of them at alex@alexgnyc.com!

I implore you to utilize your platform to highlight the doers and the bridge-gappers, not the talking heads!

Blindness As an Ultra-Ability on Adapting With Alex Garrett

On my recent podcast , Dr. Shirley Cheng , described becoming blind at age 17 and then proceeding to start her own ministry called ‘Ultra Ability’!

Take a listen to my latest podcast here !

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/43759058

James Dolan and Wollman Rink , A Match Made in Heaven

If you hadn’t seen it, Wollman Rink in New York City has had to be saved by the Central Park ice skating community.

How did we get here? When the de Blasio administration made the decision to cut contracts with all Trump organization institutions in New York City, they left Wollman rink staff, families, and kids in a state of panic that the very rink Trump saved could be taken away from out right from under their skates

Personally, not one skater on that ice should be held responsible for the insurrection of the Capitol on January 6th. Yet, that is what Mayor de Blasio is doing , and it shows his citizenry does not come first for him.

After a Change.org petition saved Wollman’s shutdown for just a few more weeks, there is a lot more work to be done!

New York City Parks Dept. Is holding bidding for a new owner to operate Wollman Rink, which by the way not just does winter skating but they do have outdoor activities for the community as well.

The one businessman I can see truly saving Wollman Rink is Rangers and Knicks owner James Dolan. The Rangers and Wollman are such a natural fit considering the rink and hockey ties. Just a few years ago, the Rangers held an outdoor practice at Wollman Rink and Garden of Dreams has often hosted galas .

If Dolan were to come along and save the rink, he really would be doing the Central Park ice skating community a service and the city should encourage it!

Fact of the matter is, I didn’t see one person on that rink really care about the Trump Organization name on the boards, on the concourse or anywhere, they just wanted to skate!

If the city ends up offering the operations but doesn’t encourage an actual buyer, then lives will be upended and I thought the Mayor of the City of New York is supposed to protect the citizenry, not tear it down!

I expanded on this in my latest Podcast on Spreaker !

Who Inspires The Creative Minds?

Every day, on podcasts, on Tik Tok, and on Instagram , the creativity is exploding!

I’ve blogged about this before, the idea how creativity has lifted us up during this pandemic. Yet, who lifts up the uplifting minds of social media?

It’s a question I’ve been wondering since I found a photo by Ben Ko (@benkophoto) that really inspired me. Now , I don’t open up about being inspired because I just want to spread a positive message and not make it about me.

Let me take you behind the curtain though. I firmly believe God has given creative brains to everyone, and so many take advantage of it! I believe God can and does inspire us!

He does inspire us through others . I may smile, I may have fun, but I do have down days (shocker , right?)

This pandemic sometimes ‘kicks the teeth in’ to my mindset because I do want to believe there is an end in sight, and we will see each other again!

When reality sets in that it will take a while longer, I just start remembering the ‘good old days’ in 29 years . Yet, there are moments where I find others keep going that tells me I TOO CAN KEEP GOING. YOU TOO CAN KEEP GOING!

So, creatives and anyone reading this, who inspires you? Who uplifts you? For me, the fact my immediate family are all here through this pandemic is inspiring and uplifting! It’s amazing how close I’ve become with my mom, dad and my stepdad Vic!

If you have an inspiration let me know at alexginnyc@gmail.com!

Let’s stay inspired as we hope and look to inspire!